Thanks for all the suggestions, I really appreciate you all taking the time to reply.
This is the kind of info I was looking for, all good starting points for some research. I don't mind nvh either. I have a DIY solid trans mount installed, which is holding up quite well, but it sounds like I have some of the other areas to look into.
Here is my 'fail' post where I broke my trans mount and made the new DIY solid mount.