Thanks for the input and quick replies so far. Not many replies on the Acura forum over the last few days.
I think I would go for a limited 3.6r with sunroof and no nav. The nav looks terrible but to be honest as long as the HK system sounds decent and will play heavy metal off my ipod I'm good. Don't need factory nav. TomTom on my iPhone was only 50 bucks and is probably light years a head of most OEM nav.
My work is also the kind of place that is open 7-5 no matter what so often we're traveling home in the middle of snow storms or early in the AM before the plows are out. I think for those times I would really appreciate the Legacy over the TL. I forgot there's a Subaru dealer about 5 minutes away from work which is a another plus.
I guess I was dead set on a Luxury brand like Acura, Lexus, Volvo, Audi etc. just for status. Half the reason I'm buying a newer car is to get something rock solid reliable while we save for a bigger house. Maybe I should get over the status thing.
Was the power difference between the two really noticeable?