It's been two tanks of gas now and lots of down shifting during stops. The clutch is feeling really good and the engagement point is now higher than when I started. Quite comfortable now. I do notice a little shutter when the car is cold for the first few shifts then it goes away.
That old dual-mass FW sure did mask a lot of drive train noise.
And the best part of all is no more slipping under full boost in 5th gear :-)
I'm looking forward to many years of holding power from this setup.