Our daughter is only 4 and we're already having the talks about how to allow her to grow without asking too much of her. She is already coming down on herself for not doing things "right"...
My wife and I are trying to think of a way to keep her trying to do he best without guilting herself if it isn't perfect in her eyes! My wife went years with guilt about not living up to her mothers standards and neither of us wants that to happen with her!
Organized sports or practiced activities are so good in many ways but the drive to be "better" than others is hard to mold. I just want her to enjoy what she is doing...regardless of being better than the person next to her!
Perhaps I should encourage other activities once we are living in CA. Carting, surfing, cycling, music...
I enjoy competition but hate how it can make people so single minded and somewhat mean.