I spoke with a service tech at Irvine Subaru today and FWIW, he said that getting the fix is just not worth it right now. He admitted that the ECU reflash does little to solve the problem and that getting an aftermarket fix was the only way to really deal with the situation right now. I'm inclined to wait, however I am pissed off with the problem and find it extremely annoying and definately a problem on a car thats 28K and up.
I love this car but this problem is just unacceptable.