Just to update, I found a local guy who had an open port, and he had the same results as I was getting with the Vagcom. Romraider worked for him, but no ecuflash. We deduced that I have a locked ECU. Now to find some way to unlock it or hunt down a replacement. Anybody know a really nice person in Charlotte nc area with cobb ap v2?
But the good news is, my vag com works...i think ;-)